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Kelvin Onyango
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what is one thing you would never change about yourself ?

Yesterday my friend and I were in our metro ride back home.

I noticed quite a deep cut on her hand.

I calmly asked her, “How did you do this, and when? I just hope if you didn’t do anything else it’s not very worrisome, but…”

I know she suffers from depression and it was an attempt to self-harm.

Probably I should have over-flooded her with questions and showed her how much I care for her.

But I didn’t.

She took a while and said, “Shit, even you noticed. Everyone who noticed was lecturing me about how I shouldn’t be doing it and it’s no good and etc but I’m glad you didn’t freak out.”

And then she told me everything about it, and how she was feeling.

Probably not asking of questions seems to be a pretty cold response at times, but this is what I do.

I just calmly bring the topic on the table, and then give others time to speak and share with me whatever they want to.

I never pester people to tell me each and every detail of each and every incident. I give them time and space. I let them know that I care but I would also trust their decision of how much they want me to know.

And I end up listening to people’s stories all the time.

The complete stories that they share willingly.

This is how I would like to continue to act.

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3 Her Answers

  1. I like minding my own business, and l will never change that.

    I like minding my own business, and l will never change that.

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  2. I hate gossiping. I'd rather be alone than engage with friends who talk behind others back.i will never change that no matter what

    I hate gossiping. I’d rather be alone than engage with friends who talk behind others back.i will never change that no matter what

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  3. Same! I've been told several times that I give a warm welcoming energy/aura because I never pester. I give my friends space to share and a willing ear to listen and if the situation requires it my opinion

    Same! I’ve been told several times that I give a warm welcoming energy/aura because I never pester. I give my friends space to share and a willing ear to listen and if the situation requires it my opinion

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1 Him Answer

  1. Personality and view of life. It may be different and out of touch but that's what makes me who I am.

    Personality and view of life. It may be different and out of touch but that’s what makes me who I am.

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1 Answer

  1. I will never change about my lifestyle

    I will never change about my lifestyle

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