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Elias Mwangi
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How do we deal with Sexual abuse/harassment amongst students, especially high school and college?

It is common practice in boys-only highschools (forgive the bias) for older and/or physically larger students to take advantage of those deemed weaker, effeminate and new.

The kind or damage (physical, psychological) is carried on into other relationships especially in adult life.

Currently, our schools are churning out droves of minors who are so used to the said practise that they tend to associate with whatever sexual activity they picked on, leading to dangerous lifestyles, recklessness and skyrocketing HIV and AIDS cases as well as suicides.

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    I hear you. I have come to learn that most bullies (whether male or female) are people with chronic low self-esteem. This then drives them to ‘compensate’ through anti-social behaviour (not to say that everyone who suffers from low self-esteem in effect automatically deals with it in this way or the same as another). The way to deal with this would be to deal with the root cause – why do individuals do what they do? Such people do what they do to feel good about themselves and it’s a psychological phenomenon manifested in different ways, e.g. drug abuse, sexual violence, horrible bosses, extremely harsh parents, etc.

    Most bullies were actually once bullied themselves or at the very least exposed to a social environment where their humanity was demeaned. In adult life such self-esteem issues are also manifest by a ‘constant false sense of competition’. This is common with abusive people in positions of leadership like a bad boss. They will demean and put-down their staff, especially those who seem intelligent or hardworking, in a bid not be ‘out-done’. A man who beats up his wife was probably (but not always the case) brought up exposed to an environment where violence was an ‘acceptable’ form of expressing aggression and/or sanctioning behaviour, and so on and so forth. But, also note, many also tend to turn out the opposite of the environment they experienced e.g. a person who chooses not to take alcohol because they do not want to turn out like those they grew up with that became alcoholics.

    A lot can be said on this topic but, as I alluded to earlier, it is an issue that needs to be nipped in the bud from formative years.

    Next week, my company will launch a podcast series on such issues where conversations with professionals and stakeholders are had in a bid to find a solution. The podcast is called ALMASI, follow it on SoundCloud – https://soundcloud.com/almasi-nairobi

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  1. It is a collective responsibility for both the parents and the teachers to impart specific manners in the students to reduce such cases in school.

    It is a collective responsibility for both the parents and the teachers to impart specific manners in the students to reduce such cases in school.

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  2. I hear you. I have come to learn that most bullies (whether male or female) are people with chronic low self-esteem. This then drives them to ‘compensate’ through anti-social behaviour (not to say that everyone who suffers from low self-esteem in effect automatically deals with it in this way or theRead more

    I hear you. I have come to learn that most bullies (whether male or female) are people with chronic low self-esteem. This then drives them to ‘compensate’ through anti-social behaviour (not to say that everyone who suffers from low self-esteem in effect automatically deals with it in this way or the same as another). The way to deal with this would be to deal with the root cause – why do individuals do what they do? Such people do what they do to feel good about themselves and it’s a psychological phenomenon manifested in different ways, e.g. drug abuse, sexual violence, horrible bosses, extremely harsh parents, etc.

    Most bullies were actually once bullied themselves or at the very least exposed to a social environment where their humanity was demeaned. In adult life such self-esteem issues are also manifest by a ‘constant false sense of competition’. This is common with abusive people in positions of leadership like a bad boss. They will demean and put-down their staff, especially those who seem intelligent or hardworking, in a bid not be ‘out-done’. A man who beats up his wife was probably (but not always the case) brought up exposed to an environment where violence was an ‘acceptable’ form of expressing aggression and/or sanctioning behaviour, and so on and so forth. But, also note, many also tend to turn out the opposite of the environment they experienced e.g. a person who chooses not to take alcohol because they do not want to turn out like those they grew up with that became alcoholics.

    A lot can be said on this topic but, as I alluded to earlier, it is an issue that needs to be nipped in the bud from formative years.

    Next week, my company will launch a podcast series on such issues where conversations with professionals and stakeholders are had in a bid to find a solution. The podcast is called ALMASI, follow it on SoundCloud – https://soundcloud.com/almasi-nairobi

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