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Sometime back I was sitting with some friends and began talking about a celebrity athlete who has been living a flashy lifestyle. One of my friends asked, “He seems to have all the money, but does he even have children?” What later emerged is that indeed he does have but the point here was that he would have been thought of as lesser if he did not.
Young women in Nairobi are always asked when they are getting married and get undue pressure to do so. Men too are now asked why they do not have ‘someone’ or when they will bring grandchildren home. Again, undue pressure. This prompts many (who are not even cut-out for marriage or have the right person) to rush to get married to quench social expectations. But can one contribute to society only through the conventional marriage/family model?
I tend to think otherwise. Do not get me wrong children are great but children are not for everyone and so is marriage life. In the same way, not everyone can be a filmmaker or artist like me or a cook or architect like another person. I tend to believe I have helped more people through my work with my company than I would have if I was married – again, this is not a universal truth, it simply applies to me, for someone else it may be different.
I say, let us learn to respect one another. You are not superior/lesser because you are married/unmarried, have children or do not. What makes you YOU is your character and how you choose to live your life.
Let’s stop age-shaming, baby-shaming & marriage-shaming, in fact, lets stop prejudice.
Happy Boxing Day!
Great question! Babe shaming and marriage shaming are two social phenomena where people criticize or judge others based on personal choices—often unfairly or harshly. --- Babe Shaming This usually targets people (often women) for how they look, dress, or present themselves—especially when they embraRead more
Great question! Babe shaming and marriage shaming are two social phenomena where people criticize or judge others based on personal choices—often unfairly or harshly.
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Babe Shaming
This usually targets people (often women) for how they look, dress, or present themselves—especially when they embrace traditionally “sexy” or confident styles.
It can involve comments that shame someone for being “too much,” “too flashy,” or “not modest enough.”
Babe shaming is rooted in societal expectations around gender and appearance, policing how people express themselves.
It can harm self-esteem and limit personal freedom.
Marriage Shaming
This happens when people criticize others based on their marital status or decisions related to marriage.
Examples include judging someone for marrying “too young,” “too late,” or not marrying at all.
It can also involve shaming people for how they conduct their marriage (divorced, remarried, or choices within the relationship).
Marriage shaming reflects societal pressure to conform to certain life milestones or norms.
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Why Both Matter
Both types of shaming impose unfair expectations and create stress or feelings of inadequacy.
They often silence authentic choices and hurt mental health.
Calling out babe shaming and marriage shaming helps promote acceptance and respect for diverse lifestyles and identities.
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If you want, I can help you write a deeper essay, social media post, or speech on these topics. Would you like that?
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Hate drives most of the shaming that happens online. Cyber bullying comes from people who may not even know you or have never met you. It is okay to not like something for yourself but projecting that dislike to other people who don’t share the same ideals is just a disgusting low. Most of the shamers would never say it to your face and only speak when they are behind a computer as an escape to their lives or a bad reality they dont want ti deal with. It is so sad that our laws are not strict enough to nab them and when they do the punishment is not intense enough to discourage others.
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