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Paul Futchie
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Who truly is in control of marriage: men, women or the community?

In most cases, Men marry as a sign of growth, wealth, and prosperity, intimacy has never been the reason enough for it. But yet it’s the major cause of breaking up when either is over generous with self.
Money however is a bigger cause of separation, infact I would say it the 99% reason marriage end. Begs the questions, how much is enough!? When a woman has enough, she see no value in men, when a man has enough He is highly valued, when he looses it then His respect is lost with it. This is the perception out here. Who truly is in control of marriage Men or women or the community?

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50%Men ( 18 voters )
19.44%Women ( 7 voters )
30.56%Community ( 11 voters )
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1 Her Answer

  1. Men are run control because even in the scriptures , the men are the head of a family

    Men are run control because even in the scriptures , the men are the head of a family

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1 Him Answer

  1. Men have the control on paper but in many marriages the women have a leash on their men, and these women often decide what happens. A different picture may be painted outside in public but it is women who pull the strings and make major decisions including who the household will vote for. Some men aRead more

    Men have the control on paper but in many marriages the women have a leash on their men, and these women often decide what happens. A different picture may be painted outside in public but it is women who pull the strings and make major decisions including who the household will vote for. Some men are even punished for disobeying their women and it has led to cases of physical violence. These cases are rare but they exist and when they do it is very bad and toxic.

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    Men have always been the Head of the Family. We are created to lead and provide with the support of our wives. The community should always play a background role in marriage and only get involved during emergencies or to offer support when needed.

    Men have always been the Head of the Family. We are created to lead and provide with the support of our wives. The community should always play a background role in marriage and only get involved during emergencies or to offer support when needed.

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  2. Control is a heavy word for a relationship but it is also related to a submission and domination. If balanced in a healthy way, both men and women can be attracted to the idea of control. Some women like dominating while other are comfortable in submission. The idea is to find someone who offers youRead more

    Control is a heavy word for a relationship but it is also related to a submission and domination. If balanced in a healthy way, both men and women can be attracted to the idea of control. Some women like dominating while other are comfortable in submission. The idea is to find someone who offers you what you want while you do the same. If left untamed, control can easily lead to unfair treatment and discrimination.

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    Men obviously play a big role in directing the marital journey. Some are forced into this by the unwritten social contracts we have with patriarchy. Even those who don’t want to have to step up and be men or else society snubs them. That's when wr hear phrases like be a man, man up, act like a man eRead more

    Men obviously play a big role in directing the marital journey. Some are forced into this by the unwritten social contracts we have with patriarchy. Even those who don’t want to have to step up and be men or else society snubs them. That’s when wr hear phrases like be a man, man up, act like a man etc.

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