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What are your WHYS for repressing your desires?

Why will you want to represses yourself because of what society feels about how you decide to be for yourself?

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  1. Brenda Gutu
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    Interesting question! ☺ I repressed my several desires because of different reasons. Withheld expressing sexual desires because of sexualization of sin. The way religion is designed I was made to feel sooooo wrong even just thinking a tiny sensual thought because I thought God would be angry with meRead more

    Interesting question! ☺

    I repressed my several desires because of different reasons.

    Withheld expressing sexual desires because of sexualization of sin. The way religion is designed I was made to feel sooooo wrong even just thinking a tiny sensual thought because I thought God would be angry with me and I would burn in eternal fire. Overtime, reconciling with myself about my own understanding of God, I have found freedom in expressing myself sexually without fear of how the high Deity sees me! It is how I see myself that matters. After all I realized that sex, food, shelter and clothing are all basic needs. So we could say that at a younger age where my moral development as a human being was taking shape, I judged myself too harshly so that others would not have a chance to judge me. So age and how one has been socialised definitely influence how we view sex and loving sexual relationships.

    I am glad to say I found sexual freedom!

    I also withheld from walking with a totally shaven head because I wondered, “how would they look at me? Would they criticise me?” So one day by accident the barber who was experiencing alcohol withdrawal symptoms (his hands were severely shaking and I still trusted him to cut my hair nicely); messed up a small part in the middle of my afro! I had to clean shave the whole head yet I was going to a huge conference! I gathered all my courage, dressed up professionally and hot for the occasion and showed up to the conference for the three days, with my head held high! I had an option to nicely do a turban but I took that as an opportunity to face the beautiful shiny shaven head in the mirror and stand among other human beings like hell yeah! I deserve to be here too! 😂

    Realized that repressing makes me a very angry soul so I have learned to stay with open arms to receive all the goodness that the universe has to offer.

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  1. Brenda Gutu
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    This answer was edited.

    Interesting question! ☺ I repressed my several desires because of different reasons. Withheld expressing sexual desires because of sexualization of sin. The way religion is designed I was made to feel sooooo wrong even just thinking a tiny sensual thought because I thought God would be angry with meRead more

    Interesting question! ☺

    I repressed my several desires because of different reasons.

    Withheld expressing sexual desires because of sexualization of sin. The way religion is designed I was made to feel sooooo wrong even just thinking a tiny sensual thought because I thought God would be angry with me and I would burn in eternal fire. Overtime, reconciling with myself about my own understanding of God, I have found freedom in expressing myself sexually without fear of how the high Deity sees me! It is how I see myself that matters. After all I realized that sex, food, shelter and clothing are all basic needs. So we could say that at a younger age where my moral development as a human being was taking shape, I judged myself too harshly so that others would not have a chance to judge me. So age and how one has been socialised definitely influence how we view sex and loving sexual relationships.

    I am glad to say I found sexual freedom!

    I also withheld from walking with a totally shaven head because I wondered, “how would they look at me? Would they criticise me?” So one day by accident the barber who was experiencing alcohol withdrawal symptoms (his hands were severely shaking and I still trusted him to cut my hair nicely); messed up a small part in the middle of my afro! I had to clean shave the whole head yet I was going to a huge conference! I gathered all my courage, dressed up professionally and hot for the occasion and showed up to the conference for the three days, with my head held high! I had an option to nicely do a turban but I took that as an opportunity to face the beautiful shiny shaven head in the mirror and stand among other human beings like hell yeah! I deserve to be here too! 😂

    Realized that repressing makes me a very angry soul so I have learned to stay with open arms to receive all the goodness that the universe has to offer.

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  2. I can't imagine my immediate family cutting me off because of my sexual orientation or desires. I don't really care much about society's take but can you imagine your support system not being in tune or understanding your needs as a person?

    I can’t imagine my immediate family cutting me off because of my sexual orientation or desires. I don’t really care much about society’s take but can you imagine your support system not being in tune or understanding your needs as a person?

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  3. The law pretty much decides what you get to do in this sense. You have to operate within the allowed bounds of the law of the land you are in.

    The law pretty much decides what you get to do in this sense. You have to operate within the allowed bounds of the law of the land you are in.

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1 Him Answer

  1. - lack of resources - judgement from the society - misplaced priorities - fear of the unknown - the peace of what's normal - the comfort zone

    – lack of resources
    – judgement from the society
    – misplaced priorities
    – fear of the unknown
    – the peace of what’s normal
    – the comfort zone

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  1. My desires and dreams sprimg out of the beliefs I hold at a particular time. This can be tethered by imagination and limited by resources, like time and money. Regardless of how grand or crazy my desires may be, I always have the reality of life and my beliefs to either hold me back or push me forwaRead more

    My desires and dreams sprimg out of the beliefs I hold at a particular time. This can be tethered by imagination and limited by resources, like time and money. Regardless of how grand or crazy my desires may be, I always have the reality of life and my beliefs to either hold me back or push me forward.

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  2. It is very unpredictable. Almost moody. it comes and goes randomly without my control and I'm at the moment learning how to ride the wave when it's on. Sometimes I just ignore it.

    It is very unpredictable. Almost moody. it comes and goes randomly without my control and I’m at the moment learning how to ride the wave when it’s on. Sometimes I just ignore it.

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  3. I always have the need for approval even when I know something deep inside. There's a fear to explore without "asking for permission" or getting approval from people we see as important in our life. I don't know where this comes from but I've seen the greatest and most talented people holding back bRead more

    I always have the need for approval even when I know something deep inside. There’s a fear to explore without “asking for permission” or getting approval from people we see as important in our life. I don’t know where this comes from but I’ve seen the greatest and most talented people holding back because of this and it can be one of the saddest things in life. Once you realise your strength it could be too late.

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