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How to identify 'red flags' in a relationship

What is an absolute red flag (to you) when it comes to building a relationship? And do you think some ‘red flags’ can be flagged early on in relationships? If so how do you look out for signs of a red flag?

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  1. General kindness. How your partner treats other people, especially those who dont particularly add any value to them, like waitstaff, gatepeople, taxi conductors, and so forth, tells so much about who they really are or will be with you after the honeymoon is over.

    General kindness. How your partner treats other people, especially those who dont particularly add any value to them, like waitstaff, gatepeople, taxi conductors, and so forth, tells so much about who they really are or will be with you after the honeymoon is over.

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  2. All relationships have red flags and we see them each time. When there are enough green flags in the relationship, we tend to overlook that one red flag that eventually brings everything down. The most common one I've seen is standard of living and cultural differences. If these are not defined andRead more

    All relationships have red flags and we see them each time. When there are enough green flags in the relationship, we tend to overlook that one red flag that eventually brings everything down. The most common one I’ve seen is standard of living and cultural differences. If these are not defined and agreed on in advance they may cause havoc later on when you’re too deep to change or adjust.

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  1. An absolute red flag for me is someone who thinks their standards and opinions are the the best and the only true ones. It means there's little to no room to accommodate any differences in thoughts between us and teamwork will be an issue. I think most red flags can be identified very early in relatRead more

    An absolute red flag for me is someone who thinks their standards and opinions are the the best and the only true ones. It means there’s little to no room to accommodate any differences in thoughts between us and teamwork will be an issue.

    I think most red flags can be identified very early in relationships… except you don’t see it as a red flag at the time and people tend to ‘give it time’ to see if it is indeed a red flag or you’re overanalyzing. Which makes sense, but always puts us at a disadvantage because the more time you spend with someone, the more emotionally invested you get and the less likely you are to be objective.

    How to look out for signs of a red flag? I think Community is your best chance. Hang out with his friends and your friends and they’ll help you see them sooner…

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