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How to identify 'red flags' in a relationship

What is an absolute red flag (to you) when it comes to building a relationship? And do you think some ‘red flags’ can be flagged early on in relationships? If so how do you look out for signs of a red flag?

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  1. General kindness. How your partner treats other people, especially those who dont particularly add any value to them, like waitstaff, gatepeople, taxi conductors, and so forth, tells so much about who they really are or will be with you after the honeymoon is over.

    General kindness. How your partner treats other people, especially those who dont particularly add any value to them, like waitstaff, gatepeople, taxi conductors, and so forth, tells so much about who they really are or will be with you after the honeymoon is over.

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  2. All relationships have red flags and we see them each time. When there are enough green flags in the relationship, we tend to overlook that one red flag that eventually brings everything down. The most common one I've seen is standard of living and cultural differences. If these are not defined andRead more

    All relationships have red flags and we see them each time. When there are enough green flags in the relationship, we tend to overlook that one red flag that eventually brings everything down. The most common one I’ve seen is standard of living and cultural differences. If these are not defined and agreed on in advance they may cause havoc later on when you’re too deep to change or adjust.

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  1. An absolute red flag for me is someone who thinks their standards and opinions are the the best and the only true ones. It means there's little to no room to accommodate any differences in thoughts between us and teamwork will be an issue. I think most red flags can be identified very early in relatRead more

    An absolute red flag for me is someone who thinks their standards and opinions are the the best and the only true ones. It means there’s little to no room to accommodate any differences in thoughts between us and teamwork will be an issue.

    I think most red flags can be identified very early in relationships… except you don’t see it as a red flag at the time and people tend to ‘give it time’ to see if it is indeed a red flag or you’re overanalyzing. Which makes sense, but always puts us at a disadvantage because the more time you spend with someone, the more emotionally invested you get and the less likely you are to be objective.

    How to look out for signs of a red flag? I think Community is your best chance. Hang out with his friends and your friends and they’ll help you see them sooner…

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  2. 1. A girl who doesn't have transport fare to visit someone that she claims she loves. (liability) 2. A lady who can't get you birthday or valentine gift but expect you to bring down the world for her during hers.(liability) 3. Someone who can't comfortably call you on phone for 5 minutes. Always flaRead more

    1. A girl who doesn’t have transport fare to visit someone that she claims she loves. (liability)

    2. A lady who can’t get you birthday or valentine gift but expect you to bring down the world for her during hers.(liability)

    3. Someone who can’t comfortably call you on phone for 5 minutes.
    Always flashing, complaining and requesting for data and airtime…(liability)

    4. I wonder how some Men cope with ladies that think relationship is an occupation where she’s supposed to be paid and taken care of??
    (S*x is not a benefit to only men.). She might not even allow you have the s*x, yet you keep spending on her like government. (liability)

    5. Stop dating a liability no matter how beautiful she is. Beauty is a bonus, focus on her content!
    Date a lady who can add something meaningful to your life.
    Things like: financial intelligence, emotional intelligence, spiritual intelligence.

    6. Date someone who’s capable of managing multiplying whatever she has and the ones you give to her, your soul will be at peace!
    Not someone that will always be at the receiving end.

    7. We’re not saying she must be rich.
    But let her have something doing no matter how little it is, because no matter how much money you make, she must be able to assist you during the rainy days…
    Some of you boys just see nyash and be willing to sell everything you have just to make it work, you might give her 100K today she’ll say “thanks” but when you call her tomorrow and tell her to visit you she will say “send transport money” (liability)

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