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Brenda Gutu
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Is it Rebellion to 'Rebel' at 33 Years Old?

Is it considered rebellion when a woman who is 33 years old decides to settle with her amazing friend and partner, whom her parents are disapproving of?
Is it considered rebellion when she has never rebelled against her parents since she was born? Is it considered rebellion when she decides to suffer estrangement instead of breaking up with the man? Is it considered rebellion to pick a partner and stick with her decision when all the partners she ever introduced to her parents were all rejected by them based on their skewed, baseless and biased opinions about their families? Is it considered rebellion when a woman decides to stay with a man after her parents judge his attributes without ever meeting him in person? Is it considered rebellion when the same 33 year old lady yields to estrangement by the parents because she is picking a partner who is not of their choice? Is it considered rebellion to stay with a partner who is a best friend yet to these parents he seems to have been sent by the ‘devil’ to destroy her? Is it considered rebellion if she breaks up with him to bring her parents their very needed peace of mind and she decides to move on by unleashing her bisexual side which she always masked, and just decide to date other women as she did before men ever showed up in her life? Is it considered rebellion if she chooses to stay with her new found lesbian partner and it feels so warm a friendship yet if her parents knew they would get ill or something? Is it considered rebellion if she has realized she can’t win both ways with men or women and she decides to close that chapter of her life, the wanting to share love with just one partner, and decides well, she can associate with Tom, Dick and Harry for her sexual needs but just stay as single as her parents want her to? Is it considered rebellion when she decides to replace her whole life with workaholism because her dad says “it is not a must for you to get married” and uses it as a tool to shut out the whole world? Is it considered rebellion that she herself has always rejected her mother’s offers to date the men that her mother recommended and now the ones she picks are considered pathetic? Is it considered rebellion if she decides to shut out everything and everybody out of her life because no partner she picks will ever be good enough? If only she knew this is how her life would have unfolded, she would have rebelled at a much younger age with everything, so that picking a partner would be now seeming like a walk in the park?! Finally, is it rebellion to quit organised religion that has been used all these years, to judge her, to judge her decisions, to judge her needs to be loved, a religion that has been used to oppress her since she can remember?
Is this kind of rebellion enough to be estranged?

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  1. This is a deep question And many adults have experienced this and I will say it鈥檚 base on your wants and intention of your partner If it鈥檚 ready to risk it all or rebel with you It is well

    This is a deep question

    And many adults have experienced this and I will say it鈥檚 base on your wants and intention of your partner

    If it鈥檚 ready to risk it all or rebel with you

    It is well

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  1. The most important kind of freedom is to be what you really are. And in this current world, where everyone has an opinion and they are all as different as they can be, I think nothing is more necessary than rebellion. Whether it is in matters of religion, sexuality, work ethics, relationships etc ..Read more

    The most important kind of freedom is to be what you really are. And in this current world, where everyone has an opinion and they are all as different as they can be, I think nothing is more necessary than rebellion. Whether it is in matters of religion, sexuality, work ethics, relationships etc … a little rebellion now and then is a good thing. You won’t always succeed, but at the very least, people will know where you stand and when they’re crossing boundaries. And it’s okay even if what you rebel for changes with time. It’s all part of defining yourself and finding your place in this world. And here’s the best thing….whatever rebellion you begin, at whatever age….you are not the first one to walk down that path. Learn from your predecessors.
    So to answer your question….yes….at 33, It is still rebellion. Buckle up. There’ll be more….

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  2. In fact, rebellion is encouraged. it helps you identify what your center ideals are.

    In fact, rebellion is encouraged. it helps you identify what your center ideals are.

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