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How do you deal with an ailing non existent parent?

How can you be there for a parent who basically was not there in your life and was abusive? Should you take the high road or your parent is your parent at the end of the day?

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3 Her Answers

  1. 1 acknowledge your feelings your feeling are valid and it's normal to have a range of emotions in response to the situation 2:set boundaries to prioritize your well being and your emotional heath 3: Have a trusted friend or a family member you can lean on as you navigate the situation 4: If yi feelRead more

    1 acknowledge your feelings your feeling are valid and it’s normal to have a range of emotions in response to the situation
    2:set boundaries to prioritize your well being and your emotional heath
    3: Have a trusted friend or a family member you can lean on as you navigate the situation
    4: If yi feel comfortable you can communicate the situation with the parent and let them know how their absence can has affected you and how you feel about their return and thus might give you closure as to why all that happened
    l5: Take good care of yourself. engage in activities that bring you joy and relaxation
    And lastly
    Forgiveness – consider forgiveness though it’s a personal choice and it takes time but It can be a powerful way to release negative emotions and move forward with life.

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  2. Their absence in your life doesn't mean you can't help. You helping them also doesn't mean you have to reconcile. You help because it is the right thing to do for anyone more so your parents.

    Their absence in your life doesn’t mean you can’t help. You helping them also doesn’t mean you have to reconcile. You help because it is the right thing to do for anyone more so your parents.

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  3. Be there for them and make sure they know that despite their absence you have forgiven them. No one is perfect and the best gift you can give your parents is love even if they didn't show it to you.

    Be there for them and make sure they know that despite their absence you have forgiven them. No one is perfect and the best gift you can give your parents is love even if they didn’t show it to you.

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  1. Parents can be as toxic as bad relationship partners. Dealing with them is harder because you can't replace them. That's how the very toxic parents get away dealing with them is not advised. If your parents are abusive, you don't have any business dealing with them in any way. You could put your lifRead more

    Parents can be as toxic as bad relationship partners. Dealing with them is harder because you can’t replace them. That’s how the very toxic parents get away dealing with them is not advised. If your parents are abusive, you don’t have any business dealing with them in any way. You could put your life in danger just beacuse you want to care. Count your losses and focus on your life. Focus on being a better parent to your own children or a better partner to your spouse, instead of trying to fix a relationship with your parents that was broken years ago when you were still young. Sometimes there is hope and the parents might change but that is not your responsibility, it is up to them to become better people and make it up to you.

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  1. it's good to accept your parents the way they are since they can't be replaced

    it’s good to accept your parents the way they are since they can’t be replaced

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  2. It is not your responsibility to take care of your parents. Your support will be appreciated but never feel like you are obligated to be the one foe them, especially when you have a strained relationship. If you've not been in touch because of their toxicity, please stay away and help from a distancRead more

    It is not your responsibility to take care of your parents. Your support will be appreciated but never feel like you are obligated to be the one foe them, especially when you have a strained relationship. If you’ve not been in touch because of their toxicity, please stay away and help from a distance when needed. You can send money, get them a nurse etc but you do not have to get back into their lives when they are in need if they pushed you away when you needed them.

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