I bet we all have heard the question ‘When are getting married?” How does this make you feel
Do you think parents are putting too much pressure on their sons and daughter to marry quickly?
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I bet we all have heard the question ‘When are getting married?” How does this make you feel
I think yes, but the most important thing people should ignore the pressure from the society and marry when you are ready since marriage come with responsibilities.
They also may want to just be assured that you are happy, perhaps projecting that marriage and children satisfied them so it must also satisfy you.
You of course want to do what is right for you and to please your parents. (“Is guilt a genetic thing?”, he wondered aloud.)
You did not ask for advice on what to do and I am not about to start. The above is just what I see as a likely motivation.
Yes and it is annoying the banters about it from my mum just gets me preannoyed. My mom ever mentioned their bishop’s son once telling me about how I can be a good match. I still cannot gather where she got that confidence! but last christmas she came with a visitor over breakfast.She was generous with mandazis n even chemshad maji ya kunawa.Too kind of nyalego😂. The guy finished and said ” acha nirudi church” then it hit me. Did my mum just do that to me? inviting him over to see me.. that’s so 1963 to do!
The fact that she already feels she has a say in that area of my life is already calling for new boundaries.
our parents know nothing about boundaries, never want to know if it’s too much.
Not just patents. Even without a single word, media and society in general tends to reward married couples. This insistence on marriage is connected to the associated perks.
Some jobs can not employ unmarried people.
Some landlords don’t take in unmarried tenants.
Some leadership positions require you to be married…
Parents are just playing the cards that they were felt not knowing things have changed drastically over time and people have options and preferences.
This is both an ancient and new question. Without going into the anthropological aspects of continuing the generations, I see this as a loving gesture underneath what must be truly annoying. (Love has its own schedule.)
There is also the FOMO aspect, fear of missing out. As your parents get older, they want to see the fruits of their parenting take root and have grandchildren to enjoy. They may also reflect that their generation (which must be mine, OMG!), married earlier than today. OK maybe that was the generation ahead of me… but they may also be thinking, in a roundabout way, “are the eggs fresh?”, you get my drift. A bit of fear or concern on their part, they want everything to be the best as they see it.
at the right time people choose what they want and who they want it with. I would not advise anyone to be pressed by those background whispers of getting old, children, wedding.. take a chill pill… if it’s your time well n good, if not, just relax. It’s the worst thing to force unto yourself.
Yes they are. They forget that the world we live in today is not the same as yesterday’s in which marriage was an achievement. Today, there is more to life than early marriages. Also, everyone has their own priorities in life. For some, marriage is at the top while for others it doesn’t even appear on the list.