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  1. It depends manze. Some women are counting losses. But like I said, it depends.. which leads to the question I asked, why do people get into relationships?

    It depends manze. Some women are counting losses. But like I said, it depends.. which leads to the question I asked, why do people get into relationships?

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    I used to engage in other things like music, hang out with friends, go outing and even taking long walks… in the end I still ended up feeling the same. So I learnt to allow myself feel lonely.. sunk in that state accepting it… I started having conversations with myself with the 3Ws why am I feelingRead more

    I used to engage in other things like music, hang out with friends, go outing and even taking long walks… in the end I still ended up feeling the same. So I learnt to allow myself feel lonely.. sunk in that state accepting it… I started having conversations with myself with the 3Ws why am I feeling lonely? What caused it? Who is responsible? ME! So I chair the meeting with different kinds of me, the funny one, the strict one, the arrogant one until we conclude the situation is not worth feeling so and we move on.
    I learnt how to make myself my own company🥰.. I can be boring to everyone but myself. it’s like I found the other me and that me entertains me more than I can entertain anyone. So I’d say, allow yourself feel lonely without looking for channels to which you distract yourself from it, especially if they don’t work like my walk n all.
    And finding God, helped even much cz I’m always in communication over the pettiest and non issues in my life to God. so I’m never lonely🤭

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  3. The group of these girls are not fully self-aware of themselves and therefore will make most of their decisions based on their environment, company of friends and the pressure to be seen as 'cool' or 'trendy'. They also just want quick and effortless cash. I don't think putting their health and repuRead more

    The group of these girls are not fully self-aware of themselves and therefore will make most of their decisions based on their environment, company of friends and the pressure to be seen as ‘cool’ or ‘trendy’. They also just want quick and effortless cash. I don’t think putting their health and reputation at risk is a good enough argument for being jobless.

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  4. I have millions, I'll share three... My parents being the African parents they are always gave the warning 'never go into people's homes!' and it's still a rule but with choices now. I was ten and this day my father had gotten his pay and as usual we always went shopping as a family. But this time wRead more

    I have millions, I’ll share three… My parents being the African parents they are always gave the warning ‘never go into people’s homes!’ and it’s still a rule but with choices now.
    I was ten and this day my father had gotten his pay and as usual we always went shopping as a family. But this time we did not.. we were from playing when my dad came so we were too dirty for the supaermarket space lol. They took long, I think my dad started with his date with his wife first before shopping. So my sister and I join other kids to go watch lion king at one of our friend’s. We stayed in, other kids being picked up and others leaving as it got late. What gave me comfort was that we did not have the keys to our house, so it was easy to put the blame on my parents in case they pull the warning card😅.
    in our estate court we had like 30 homes and I think Mr. and Mrs. Otieno had been searching door to door because this home was never easy to enter and that’s why every kid took the chance that day. When we got found, the eyes from both mom and dad, that pinch from the door to the gate, those ‘ngotos’ and back slaps as we walked home were enough to let me know we are going get a beating of our lifetime.😅
    and they were prepared, the belt was there, the water pipe and mom’s cooking stick and far worse the table had already been moved. lol we lied down to a beating we’ve never had before. By this time it was around 10pm and my mom had actually packed our bags and asked us to go live with that rich neighbour😂.
    funny it is but I totally hated the drama and the relationship my parents created. My sister was always okay.. but for me all these kept piling up and being that no change ever occured till date. Living in tension, fear, harsh tones, commands, zero empathy and unhealthy boundaries completely destroyed my relationship with them and myself too at some point but that’s a story for another day.
    I tried working on that relationship by creating awareness on what they did and the effect it has on me (apparently my mom says I’m not normal). When I started this conversation with them it was received with “we are your parents, we will always know what’s best for you and we did that because of love, oooh if we did not love you we wouldn’t work hard to take you to school, children out here wish they were you” and then in no time we were arguing…
    In class four I was crying because I was being bullied(I was the tiniest not smallest, in class). So mum found me and got angry, first reaction! ” What’s there to cry for? what are we crying for? please I have veges and food to be prepared get out of there and help me out..” that’s when I closed that door of opening up to my parents. my mum is not the first pesron I run to when I need a hug like others would. I was 11 years when I learnt to keep my things to myself.
    Today, I love my life private from my family because I also know what it means to let them in.

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  5. at the right time people choose what they want and who they want it with. I would not advise anyone to be pressed by those background whispers of getting old, children, wedding.. take a chill pill... if it's your time well n good, if not, just relax. It's the worst thing to force unto yourself.

    at the right time people choose what they want and who they want it with. I would not advise anyone to be pressed by those background whispers of getting old, children, wedding.. take a chill pill… if it’s your time well n good, if not, just relax. It’s the worst thing to force unto yourself.

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    Yes and it is annoying the banters about it from my mum just gets me preannoyed. My mom ever mentioned their bishop’s son once telling me about how I can be a good match. I still cannot gather where she got that confidence! but last christmas she came with a visitor over breakfast.She was generous wRead more

    Yes and it is annoying the banters about it from my mum just gets me preannoyed. My mom ever mentioned their bishop’s son once telling me about how I can be a good match. I still cannot gather where she got that confidence! but last christmas she came with a visitor over breakfast.She was generous with mandazis n even chemshad maji ya kunawa.Too kind of nyalego😂. The guy finished and said ” acha nirudi church” then it hit me. Did my mum just do that to me? inviting him over to see me.. that’s so 1963 to do!
    The fact that she already feels she has a say in that area of my life is already calling for new boundaries.
    our parents know nothing about boundaries, never want to know if it’s too much.

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  7. parents should be the first teachers but as time goes the responsibility is left to the teacher. There is little meaningful time spent with this generation. actually when it happens it's probably cz shit went south. sex education will be necessary to help them understand their reasons and consequencRead more

    parents should be the first teachers but as time goes the responsibility is left to the teacher. There is little meaningful time spent with this generation. actually when it happens it’s probably cz shit went south.
    sex education will be necessary to help them understand their reasons and consequences behind their decisions regarding relationships and sex. actually I’m suspecting there’s no teen who is single😅.
    True, Information and advocating for practical responsible sexual behaviour and abstinence will help them mature up in decision making around it.

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  8. I rather have them introduced to that knowledge and be supportive enough to provide them with protection at that age to prevent dealing with unplanned pregnancy or attempted unsafe abortion. We can make decisions on their behalf but we cannot control what they choose to do.

    I rather have them introduced to that knowledge and be supportive enough to provide them with protection at that age to prevent dealing with unplanned pregnancy or attempted unsafe abortion. We can make decisions on their behalf but we cannot control what they choose to do.

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  9. Very much.. as much as we may educate the girl, leaving boychild out of mentorship sessions will not empower them to understand women, support women practise healthy sexual choices and understand how they play a big role in the rising teen pregnancies.

    Very much.. as much as we may educate the girl, leaving boychild out of mentorship sessions will not empower them to understand women, support women practise healthy sexual choices and understand how they play a big role in the rising teen pregnancies.

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  10. Leaders are made. This is regardless of the environment one grew in as much as it may also have influence on someone. Should be a personal decision to just take responsibility and doing what is right in leadership.

    Leaders are made. This is regardless of the environment one grew in as much as it may also have influence on someone. Should be a personal decision to just take responsibility and doing what is right in leadership.

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  11. We can make that work.. we can conduct focus group discussions, invite the targeted age-group in a talk and learn why there is the high sexual activity amongst them and allow them provide solutions to the problem.

    We can make that work.. we can conduct focus group discussions, invite the targeted age-group in a talk and learn why there is the high sexual activity amongst them and allow them provide solutions to the problem.

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  12. Friendship is work.. it takes trust to, respecting and creating healthy boundaries, maturity and support towards each other.

    Friendship is work.. it takes trust to, respecting and creating healthy boundaries, maturity and support towards each other.

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    The highest sexual activeness I've seen in four generations.. If self control had a price! They rather pay the price than bank it as an asset. Comprehensive sexuality Education has been implemented by organizations like Family Health Options Kenya that influenced meaningful and positive behaviour amRead more

    The highest sexual activeness I’ve seen in four generations.. If self control had a price! They rather pay the price than bank it as an asset.
    Comprehensive sexuality Education has been implemented by organizations like Family Health Options Kenya that influenced meaningful and positive behaviour among teens and youths. If that Youth Action Movement could be implemented with efficient accessibility to youth friendly SRH safe spaces for services, we will raise a very self aware generation.
    As much as we create solutions that we feel are good to reduce thee numbers and positively transform their sexual discipline we may not get to the very root of it. Why can’t they resist risky sexual behaiour? Why are they not exercising safe sex? We cannot tell them stop having sex or have sex like this without helping them understand why they do it in the first place.
    Let’s ask them…

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