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  1. Hahah, a well calculated reply. I am an introvert too and I get that, I have become friends with people who later tell me I thought you didn’t like me at first or I thought you were rude. But some people appear rude sometimes rather than being in a weird position of not talking to a stranger. AnywayRead more

    Hahah, a well calculated reply. I am an introvert too and I get that, I have become friends with people who later tell me I thought you didn’t like me at first or I thought you were rude. But some people appear rude sometimes rather than being in a weird position of not talking to a stranger. Anyway, a second chance sounds more ideal

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  2. Thank you for the clarification. But again I think my answer was leading to that, maybe I ended up not being clear. My point is that the moment two people get into a relationship with one person believing that they have the “bigger voice”and the other party ends up realising that that concept is falRead more

    Thank you for the clarification. But again I think my answer was leading to that, maybe I ended up not being clear.

    My point is that the moment two people get into a relationship with one person believing that they have the “bigger voice”and the other party ends up realising that that concept is false, they will eventually fall out. That is where I was driving at, that people not subscribing to the institution of marriage anymore can be as a result of the revolutionary awakenness of women and them being self conscious, like I mentioned earlier, in my opinion. Perhaps it is one of those bad cultural practices that we leave behind while we move into a more “modernized world” because I think that whole institution of marriage is more patriarchal (culture) than religious.

    I understand your point but however, I think that even “non institutionalized” relationships require the same amount of commitment depending on how much you value relationships for both parties to live happily, and marriage is not any different from this I believe. It all comes down to how much you are willing to compromise or not. All depends on you, but whatever the type of relationship you are in there are still going to be expectations because that is how we coexist

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  3. Great question! I believe we are gradually turning into an era where the people (mostly women) who were upholding marriage are now conscious and self-reliant. Considering that the institution of marriage was solely meant to be controlled by men and they benefit more from the relationship. So maybe wRead more

    Great question! I believe we are gradually turning into an era where the people (mostly women) who were upholding marriage are now conscious and self-reliant. Considering that the institution of marriage was solely meant to be controlled by men and they benefit more from the relationship. So maybe we are approaching post-ignorant society, where women are no longer accepting the bad culture that has made them submissive to men in marriages where it isn’t companionship for them. So the problem is not as a result of the institutionalization of marriage by religion- because as the case may be the guidelines of marriage which are being followed by society are very little from the teachings of the religion but culture- the problem is that people are not accepting the toxic conditions that they used to live with, and this is what is affecting the way we live now.

    Also, I think mother-daughter/son or father-son/daughter are institutionalized relationships as well. This can be backed by a child’s birth certificate, it is a signed relationship. Also, brother-sister relationships are signed when they are your next of kin, that’s to an extent an institutionalized relationship.

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