Young men today do not get enough (if they ever do) instruction on how to get into a relationship and who to do it with. If anything, many of them grow up objectifying women out of different exposure points that demean womanhood. As a result, they end up having unrealistic reasons for getting into relationships and mostly without knowing what they really want or who they really are.
This Saturday on Fatuma’s Voice, we challenge the men by asking; what do you look for in a woman? What is the criteria (if there is one/many) to choose the person you want to spend the rest of your life with? Are your relationship expectations reasonable? What role does your girlfriend/wife play in your togetherness? Did anyone teach you all these or how did you figure it out?
You have been to a number of relationships and you feel like the right person is not showing up any time soon. Society is piling pressure on you; when are you getting someone? Any prospects yet? Will you marry? The patriarchal system that runs in the cultures we come from expects a man to marry while he is still young. People want to see you being a husband. But with changing social structures, dating, and marriage have sort of also evolved.
Come share your thoughts. The conversation is open to everyone who has something to say regarding this subject. Poetry and music are on the menu.
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